Feminism is Sexist.

I’m turning 23 next week, and it was only about eight years ago when I saw a significant change in my life.  Thank goodness, too.

I used to be a feminist.

Most people who know me personally would be pretty shocked.  Now, I call myself anti-feminist when only a short time ago I was that girl who thought every man was a chauvinist who couldn’t respect women and their rights.  I thought men wanted it to be like how it was in “the good ol days,” when women were in the kitchen and they were bringing home the bacon.  I was that someone who deplored even the thought of changing my last name when I got married: “I’m not his property!”

Of course we’re not their property.  This isn’t the 1800s.  But in high school, I didn’t understand how the real world worked.  I’d been indoctrinated from the time I moved to the States while the Bush v Gore election rolled on:

“Mom, what’s a Democrat?”

My liberal, Italian mother replied, “Someone who likes new ideas and adopting new ways of dealing with problems.”

Who doesn’t want to promote new ideas and acceptance?  Loser Republicans, that’s whom!  There it was: my feminism was born.

As years rolled by, I had discussions with my friends about women’s roles in society, as early as middle school.  I’d heard things my mom and dad told me, (“be yourself!” “you can do anything you put your mind to!” “you’re beautiful; don’t listen to others who bully you”) and I’d transformed them into feminism talking points before I even understood what that meant.

I didn’t need makeup to feel beautiful, I shouldn’t have to be thin to impress boys, I definitely didn’t need to look perfect to feel good about myself, and I could go to college to be whatever I wanted to be. #feminism!

But in high school, I started to understand things a little more.  During the 2008 presidential campaigns, I was too young to vote, but I was very into the process.  I tried discussing the Obama and Clinton campaigns with my peers, most of whom couldn’t care less (and probably still don’t), but before he became the nominee, I was obsessed with the Clinton campaign.  A female president?  Hell yeah!  It’s about time a female gets in that White House!  I even called my best friend sexist for not supporting Clinton.

As I started watching the news, however, things changed for me.  I wasn’t listening to my teachers anymore, and things my parents said weren’t clouded by my own irrational opinions.  Instead of talking, for the first time in my life, I listened.  

It was weird; hearing so much information that I’d never known about Clinton and Obama was hard for me.  These weren’t the progressive idols I thought they were.  Clinton wasn’t the feminist icon I’d loved and defended.  She was the woman who defended rapists (including child rapist Thomas Taylor) and made fun of their victims.  They didn’t support gay marriage.  Clinton had affiliations in the past that brought forward questions about racism.

What the hell was wrong with this woman I thought was my candidate?  Was this feminism?  Progressivism?  I didn’t want any part of it.

Oxford’s definition of feminism is “the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.”  Thanks Oxford, but today, that isn’t the case.  Women already have equal rights across the board.  

Women already, by law, make the same amount a man would in the same position.  However, the government and media claim women make $0.78 per dollar a man makes “on average.”  But they don’t tell you this “average” involves ALL jobs performed by both sexes.  Feminist professor and writer Christina Hoff Sommers explained it well in her article “Feminist Myths That Will Not Die”: “The bottom line: the 23-cent gender pay gap is simply the difference between the average earnings of all men and women working full-time. It does not account for differences in occupations, positions, education, job tenure or hours worked per week. When such relevant factors are considered, the wage gap narrows to the point of vanishing.”  

Hoff links to a report  from the US Department of Labor (the same government telling you there’s a gap) that states that “Women, especially working mothers, tend to value “family friendly” workplace policies more than men” and that “A greater percentage of women than men tend to work part-time. Part-time work tends to pay less than full-time work.”  While more women work as teachers or office assistants, more men work in construction or off-shore.

While reading about the issue of “equal rights” on Debate.org, I read that most women don’t think they have equal rights because of the supposed pay gap.  So the pay gap that doesn’t exist is the main concern for equal rights?  There goes that feminist argument.

While perusing through the misinformation, I see an interesting comment: “women are the favoured gender in this society through affirmative action and discrimination against men.”  In my Human Resources and Businesses classes, I’ve found this to be accurate.  Civil Rights laws protect “minorities and women.”  The Equal Opportunity Commission works to force businesses to hire a certain number of women depending on how large the organization is, regardless of qualifications.  These quotas, however, only harm the company; employees who see gender quotas are less likely to apply for a job there, because both men and women see they place a higher importance on gender than merit.

Not only do women have the same rights as men, but they often have even more.  They get more opportunities for higher education and scholarships (how many men do you know who won a male-only scholarship?), and they have better chances to make up a workforce.

So if equal rights is what the feminists want, and we’ve already got it, what the hell is the point of feminism?

To answer this question, modern feminism (or some may call it third wave feminism) is about diminishing masculinity.  If a woman claims rape, not only is she to be automatically believed, the accused is to have his life destroyed, and if it’s discovered that she made everything up, it’s sexist to hold her accountable.  If women believe they should hold 50% or more of leadership positions, they should, merit be damned.  But when the question of actual oppression in other countries comes up, feminists remain quiet.

Modern feminism is about not shaving, #freeingthenipple, and a gender gap that doesn’t exist.  It’s about caricatures of non-traditional females such as hairy underarms and big ugly glasses.  It’s about voting for a woman for pubic office solely on the grounds that she is a woman.  It’s about calling an overweight woman “brave” because they aren’t the ideal of beauty but can still manage to take off their clothes.

Modern feminism is sexist BS.  

 

Best Top Coat in the universe.

After years of manicuring my hands with expensive polish and having it chip off after two days, I decided to just spend money on Dollar Store polish and paint them regularly.  Then I learned that it was all about the top coat.

We ladies have spent so much money and energy and time and everything else on searching for the best top coat for our precious nails.

I’m here to save you that struggle.  You’re welcome.

Seche Vite!

Best Top Coat in the universe.

This thing is the most amazing nail polish I’ve ever used in my life.  I literally wear $1 polish most of the time (which is how I have so many colors), and I get a manicure that lasts throughout the week.

I typically give myself a full manicure every other week or every two weeks, but with Seche Vite, it looks like I’ve got a professional manicure.

The only con…

A lot of reviews talk about “shrinking” polish, so I wanted to address that.

Best Top Coat in the universe.

When I still have a wet coat of color polish, I apply a coat of Seche Vite to the ENTIRE nail.  A lot of people don’t coat the entire nail, but they don’t realize it until they use this polish because it’s thicker and breaks apart the color polish to ensure a thick, shiny coat.

Best Top Coat in the universe.

Even with my manicure this week (as seen above), there are obvious spots where I didn’t coat the side of my nail with the polish, but for the most part, it looks like a professional did my nails.

In case you were wondering, I clean my nails with 100% Acetone ($2.50 at Walmart) and an e.l.f. concealer brush ($1 at Walmart or Target).  Just dip the brush into acetone and wipe the excess polish from your skin and nails to create a clean finish.  I typically do this before I apply Seche Vite.  

You can grab a bottle for less than $5 on Amazon. You can buy it at Sally and CVS for a lot more.

Redbox – pay it forward!

As I’m scrolling through Facebook today, I saw this:

redbox

Can you imagine how amazing that would be?  To find free money in your Redbox movie?

Now imagine how awesome it would be to make that next person happy?  I can tell I’m growing up, because the idea of making someone else smile makes me smile!  I’m definitely doing this next time I get a Redbox rental.

 

My advice for college students.

The other day in class, I overheard a girl saying how terrified she was to be “in the real world” once she graduated. Interested in what she meant, I kept listening. She explained that she was scared that after college, she wouldn’t be able to find a job in her field and would get knocked on her ass pretty hard.

As I thought about it, I realized that college students generally don’t work while they go to school.  Some students take four classes to have full-time status while others take five or six classes a semester to get done as soon as possible.  On the other hand, I took four classes (once I took five and wanted to shoot myself in the foot) each semester while working part-time.  I’ve worked since I was seventeen and don’t know anything else.  I don’t know what I’d be like if I didn’t work!

Work and school are my life, but for most of my peers, they don’t know what the real world is like.  They are thousands of dollars in debt because of student loans and they’re not even sure that they can work to pay them off after they graduate.  Adults are spending their loans on school, but they’re also wasting it on housing, food, gas, clothing, and whatever else they need to survive, which all gets very expensive.  I can only imagine how terrified these adults are.

The “real world” isn’t as terrifying as it may seem, but so many students are completely unprepared for it.  Once I graduate, I have a full-time job waiting for me; I’ve been such a diligent worker for so long (I’m only 22 as of this writing, but a lot of my peers have never had any work experience) that my current workplace has offered me a job the second I graduate this year.  I’m blessed and lucky for the opportunity, but I also have worked my ass off for it.  I work at a law office, by the way.

So my advice to college students: if you’re scared of life after college or worried you won’t have something once you graduate, GET A JOB NOW.  Back off from taking six classes and use your experience in school to get a decent part-time job.  Tell them when you’re planning to graduate and let them know you’re excited to finish school so that you can become a real asset to them then.  Not only will they be thrilled to know you’re loyal enough to want to move up the chain, but they’ll respect that you want to finish your education and be very supportive of your choices and changing schedule.

The real world is only as bad as you make it out to be, so make good choices and make them sooner rather than later.  You’ll thank yourself for them.  Believe me.

 

Bing Rewards – Free Stuff!

So let me tell you about something pretty damn cool – Bing Rewards.

I’ve been using Bing for years because Google doesn’t like to celebrate patriotic or religious holidays, and it -around sucks. Well, I noticed a little medal icon in the top of the homepage every time, and finally I decided to click on it. Apparently, for each search I was making, I was accumulating points…

But what were these points for, exactly? Free stuff, of course! Who knew my decision to use Bing would get me free rewards? They have gift cards for Amazon, Domino’s, Applebee’s, Gamestop, and more, but you can also use your points to donate money to charities like the Boys and Girls Club of America or the Kids in Need Foundation.

There are levels (Member, Silver, and Gold Status) and you can move up and get freebies for fewer points.

I just got my first reward today: a gift certificate to Domino’s!

All you need to do to join is log in with your Facebook account or Microsoft account. Accumulate points through your computer and mobile device by making searches, and get free stuff! It really can’t be much easier than that!

Book Review: The Tenth by Joanne Moudy

This is the first book I’m reviewing officially on my blog, and hopefully it won’t be the last.  I got The Tenth from Joanne Moudy herself, and she even signed it for me.  She’s a really sweet, wonderfully talented woman.  While will go into parts of the book vaguely, there will be no spoilers!

After seeing some reviews, I realized The Tenth was her first book.  Wait.  What?!  There’s no way!  It’s a highly intelligent, well put-together novel that is so easy to read.  I figured Moudy had been writing for years, which is probably true, but you know what I mean.  I couldn’t believe this was her first book.

The Tenth is a fast-paced thriller about faith.  The story centers around Elizabeth, a trauma nurse who has experienced great loss throughout her life and has given up her faith.  On a daily basis, she experiences dramatic situations that often end in death, so she believes that even if there is a God, he is uncaring and remorseless.  However, she soon experiences things that lead her toward God’s path and she slowly restores her faith in Him.

Some chapters focus on The Nine, a group of elder-esque beings in Heaven.  Joseph, the Sixth, discovers a darkness in one of the realms.  In my opinion, these are the chapters that make The Tenth a real thriller.  Readers don’t really know what is going on until later, when the two stories intertwine.  The supernaturality and spirituality weaving into the real world creates an interesting effect that kept me turning the page.

The story is really well written.  The characters are believable; while I was reading Elizabeth’s story, I found myself thinking, “When I wasn’t a Christian, I thought the same negative things, too.”  (Note: when I was a teenager, I did not believe in God.  I have since realized my own faith.)  They were well developed, and I found myself rooting for a lot of the characters trying to help Elizabeth, particularly Jackson.  In fact, I probably liked his character the most.

The medical scenes, by the way, are amazingly written, as they are vivid and wildly creative.  I often wondered if Moudy experienced them herself because of how specific they were.  I did cry during some parts (but don’t worry, I won’t tell you which ones!), and I found myself becoming attached to the characters more than I thought I would.

This is the first novel I have read that has such a prominent religious plot and setting, and I have to admit, I loved it.  The values set in this book are some that many, religious or not, should consider.  The Tenth is captivating and I would absolutely recommend it for all adults and young adults.  It’s eye-opening and could possibly be life-changing.

Buy The Tenth here!

Glade Plugins Scented Oils and Wax Melts

I was given some Glade products through BzzAgent.  For a full explanation of BzzAgent, click here.

In my kit, I received Glade Wax Melts and Glade Plugins Scented Oil Customizables.

Wax Melts: I love these things.  I love candles, but I don’t like spending an arm and a leg for something that smells fantastic and lasts a reasonable about of time.  I think these are perfect for my needs!  I purchased the Fresh Berries and Raspberry melts, and ohhhhh boy.  GREAT idea that was!  My mom and I are in love with the scents! One cube so far has lasted about 5 hours and there is still about half of it left to burn.  There are a total of twelve cubes in one package that doesn’t cost much!

Plugins Scented Oils Customizables: I’m not a huge fan of plugins because they take up outlet space and they get really hot, which makes me uncomfortable.  Since I wanted to try this, however, I bought the nicely designed plugin (pictured below). It’s cool because you can have two different scents, and they change often so your house is always smelling nice and different. The only downside was that this is too powerful, even when it’s on the lowest setting. My mom kept getting headaches from the scent and had to keep unplugging it. I wasn’t irritated by the strong smell, but if you have any sensitivity, this may not be what you’re looking for.

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Tone Body Wash – Pink Peony and Rose Oil

As a BzzAgent, I occasionally get free things from companies in exchange for reviews and feedback.  For full details of BzzAgent, click here.  In my most recent BzzCampaign, I got a free, full-sized bottle of Tone Pink Peony and Rose Oil Body Wash, so this is my review.

I have fairly sensitive skin, and Tone body wash is really soft and gentle on my skin. I used Tone in the past and loved it, and it never gave me problems or irritations. After showering, my skin felt so soft! It also lathers easily, which is something I look for in a body wash (I know I can’t be the only one, right?). The only complaint I have was that the scent wasn’t as good as I thought it would be. When I bought Tone in the past, I bought Vino Moisture, and it smelled AMAZING. This scent, however, was subtle and not very rosy. I’ve never been a fan of sweet pea or subtle floral scents, so that’s probably why.

Verdict: I like Tone a lot and will be probably purchasing the brand and body wash in the future, but I won’t be getting this scent.  

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iOS 7 Features and Tricks!

With the new iOS 7 coming out, there’s been quite a bit of buzz and lots of mixed reviews.  Even I wasn’t a big fan of the new update, but of course, it took a little getting-used-to to, well, get used to it.

Anyway, here are a few tips to getting used to the new update that makes things easier for you and will help save your battery life (the day of the update, my battery was at 73% in about twenty minutes…)!

The camera now has new options that cut out the middleman.
Not only can you have the camera take a picture in a square rather than a rectangle, iOS7 has added a number of photo filters for our hipster-photo needs!  The camera modes come in VIDEO, PHOTO, SQUARE, and PANO (for Panorama).

You can change Siri’s gender!
Finally, you can change Siri’s annoying voice without changing her accent or language! Just go to Settings > General > Siri, and change the gender!

The Command Center!
There is this nifty Command Center for the new iOS that saves a lot of time. All you have to do is swipe up from the bottom of the home screen. Once the menu is on the screen, you get a bunch of different options! The first row enables you to toggle options on and off: in order, it goes Airplane Mode, Wi-Fi, Bluetooth, Do Not Disturb, and Orientation Lock. Below that, you can change the brightness, and then there is a music menu. You can pause, play, or skip songs soooo much easier with this change. Finally, at the bottom of this Command Center, there are thumbnails for the (BRAND NEW, BUILT-IN) Flashlight, Clock/Alarm, Calculator, and Camera. This is probably my favorite new feature! You can also open this in the Lock Screen – just swipe up from the bottom, as well!

See the iOS’s version of “multitasking”
Multiple tablets and smartphones later, Apple has finally figured out that people want technology that multitasks. All you have to do is double-tap the Home button, and up pops a bunch of different thumbnails of your apps with your most recent coming first. It’s a nifty little feature, but I don’t think it compares to the multitasking capabilities of other smartphones.

How to close programs!
At first, when I couldn’t figure out how to close apps, I was really upset because my phone was rapidly dying and I didn’t know how to fix it. Then I realized that all you need to do is double-tap the Home button to show the iOS’s multitasker, and swipe the thumbnails up to close them! Very simple, fun way to close apps! Make sure you do this several times a day so that your poor phone isn’t dying every second.

New and improved app folders!
I don’t really care much for folders, but now I like them a lot more because they don’t have a maximum capacity anymore! Now you can have one folder with as many pages in it as you like! LOVE THIS! There are little dots at the bottom of the folder that allow you to see what page you’re on.

There’s a “New” Dot for Newly Downloaded or Updated Apps
I guess Apple figured it would be a good idea to notify us when we have an app that we haven’t opened since downloading or updating it. Now there is a small blue dot next to the app that allows us to see that.

FINALLY: A Block Feature!
I can’t believe how THRILLED I am about this (I probably would have liked it a lot more a long time ago, but still!). Now, if you want to block a contact or number, ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IT CLICK “BLOCK!” Instead of logging onto your service provider, trying to remember your case-sensitive password, etc. etc., you just select the contact or the phone number, click “i” for info, scroll down, and click “Block.” Viola! You’ve just saved time and a lot of hassle!

The Safari Browser is new and improved!
Safari isn’t just a 2D swipe-fest anymore! Now, they look like 3D stacked folders that you can sift through. You can also have as many open as you want instead of only having just eight. There is a little “X” in the corner of each browser, but there is another way you can close them that requires less precision and a little more fun! All you have to do is swipe the browser you want to close to the left, and it’s gone!

Safari Private Searches
Along with the new changes to Safari, there is a “Private Search” option. When prompted, it will ask if you want to close the remaining open pages.

Nifty Search bar!
And I have to say, I like it a lot more! All you need to do it swipe down from the home screen, and the Search Bar will appear! Nifty, eh?

New “Collection” option in photos
There’s a nifty little option you can choose in your photo album that separates photos into sections. It’s nifty if you want to see your pictures in smaller chunks.

TIME STAMPS!
If you’re like me, the fact that the iPhone didn’t do time stamps very well, then you’re probably excited about this update FINALLY implementing a way to see time stamps! All you need to do is swipe a message to the left and you’ll see stamps for every message on screen. Amazing!

Music player in your lock screen!
Whoa. If this isn’t one of the best things Apple’s ever done, I don’t know what is (especially since it’s waaaaay overdue).

Got any more tips you think I should add?  Let me know! (:

Send a Christmas Card to a Soldier!

Send our heroes a Christmas card!

Being a Navy brat all my life has really made me into quite the proud American. I love my country, but I also love the men and women who have dedicated their lives to serving it.

Last year, I participated in a program that sent a card and a pack of Twizzlers to our deployed troops. It made me really happy to do something to those serving overseas, so I decided that this year I might try reach more people in a similar way by sending Christmas cards to soldiers. I think it will be a really great thing to do and it will possibly make the day of a wounded solider spending Christmas away from home. They need support more than ever. I’m going to try to handmake some, but I’ll also try to send as many as I can.

 SEND TO THIS ADDRESS:
A Recovering American Soldier
c/o Walter Reed Army Medical Center
6900 Georgia Avenue
NW Washington, DC 20307-5001

Let me know if you plan on sending any! (: